Angela made the point that spirits dont grieve and just want to check in on us--but when I dream about them, I am ALWAYS grieving. I dont have good dreams about them. They are always gut wrenching drenched-in-sweat dreams. I hate them. I only had one neutral dream when my dad came and I had cigarette smoke in my room for 3 nights and then my gma passed. He was waiting for her and that was obvious. But all other dreams about him and my boyfriend have been AWFUL. So while they may not be grieving--I wish they'd stay out of my dreams because I SURE DO GRIEVE.
I am a little late in joining this discussion; however, I wanted to respond to what you said above, Willow. My mother, who had been living with me for the past 2 years, passed away on May 5, 2004. While I am certain that she has been here with me, hears my every word and thought, and responds in ways that I can hear, see and know that she is doing exactly as she had promised - that is, she would be with me always, my dreams of her have not been pleasant and are very much associated with her death and my not being able to do anything more to assist her in remaining alive in the physical realm. The dreams are grief wrenching - and are most certainly of my making and not my mother's. However, I read somewhere yesterday on a website pertaining to after death communication (ADC) that prior to falling asleep, it is helpful to ask of God or whatever higher power that you may believe in to allow the spirit to come to you in your dreams in comforting ways - in their spiritual presence rather than in the ways that we create and recreate as we attempt to deal with their passing. I hope this will be helpful to you. I am certainly going to give it a try and will let you know if it helps at all with my being able to let go of the nightmares that I tend to create for myself.