I've heard that too!
I've also read that before we go to the physical plane, we make choices regarding our looks, talents, handicaps, and parents. This reminded me of an intuitive feeling that I had as a little girl one day. As I held on to my dad's hand on one side and my mom's on the other, I kept thinking how fortunate I was to have them both.
I've also read that some negative things that happen to a loved one may really be intended to teach important lessons. My mom, for example, who was always thin and il
, endured what appeared to be a stroke and dehydration on the next to the final day of her life. She was taken to the hospital on Thursday night, (Feb. 13, her anniversary), slipped into a coma overnight and was taken to the intensive care unit, where she hung on until late Friday afternoon. All the while, my father kept urging her to wake up, something that she could not do. What was especially tragic about her life was that she never really enjoyed life. Her parents were dirt poor and she and her sister and brothers struggled to help make ends meet. Even when she married, she was more or less stuck where she was.
I cry everytime I think about this, although perhaps I shouldn't. I think it was John Edward who said that spirits of departed loved ones are dismayed and saddened to see their surviving relatives grieving them. They are really well and happy as they wait for their living ones to join them at the end of life on the physical plane. l