So far we've been running one to two visits a week, which is more than I'd anticipated (the judge said three per week, but they live 45 minutes away and Mama doesn't drive).
Bonehead doesn't have an attorney. He makes diddley working for Applebee's and can't afford one. We might pitch in for one if we felt confident that he was really towing the line, but he's only 20 and he's very laid back, irresponsible, and immature (He thinks otherwise, of course!) He's foolish with the little money he does and we're not going to enable him. If he wants a lawyer he'll have to ante up! (Of course she has a lawyer - her parents paid for one.)
We keep every email they said and I take notes on phone calls. There have been some bizarre control issue "conditions". PrettyMom insists that her parents bring the children here and take them home. That puts her mom in the position of driving 45 minutes here, wasting 4 hours in our town, then driving 4 hours back. We've offered to share the load, but they don't want the children to ride with us because our granddaughter "might cry". (Oh well, saves us gas and time and stress, eh?)
I've raised 4 kids. My response to that is, "So?"
Nonetheless, we toss 'em in the car and take them out to eat or whatever and they don't fuss at all!
Of course we didn't do that the first visit because Grammy2 SAT IN OUR DRIVEWAY IN HER CAR FOR 4 HOURS and complained when we let Bonehead go into the backyard with his children without accompanying him. Oy!!!! My darling, sweet husnband put an end to that nonsense!
There's more, but I won't bore you with the detailed diaper instructions or 2 year-old "panic attacks" (read: temper tantrums). On second thought, it might make good reading in the Enquirer!