Speaking from experience... YES!
The moment we ask ourselves if the situation we are involved is good for us, we already know that the answer is NO!
We must trust ourselves and take the hardest step necessary to break free. It is not easy. Some refuse to feel that horrible, gut-wrenching pain of loss, so they stay within the comfort zone of being abused. It is also a painful process as we discover the truths that have allowed us to be in an abusive, controlling relationship.
There is no time limit as to how long feeling back to yourSELF can take. Time, however, does heal the pain, but so does getting involved with yourSELF, and loving yourSELF, making peace with yourSELF and finding out how worthy of true love you are. The more you call positive, creative beauty into your life, the more others will be drawn to you and your life will take a more up-beat direction!
Ask yourself this... what is more important in your life? The peaceful sound mind that discovering your true womaness can bring... or the stressfilled days of wondering and accepting a life of trauma and drama?
To feel is to heal, and the pain you suffer from the loss of "love" is severe. The feelings of depression, anger, guilt and shame are the stages of healing. Feel them, and heal them! Let them go... and move on! Life has a bounty of surprises for you, and you alone! Go find them!
I wish you much success on your journey to freedom, you will be OKAY, in fact, better than ever before!
Bella Moon ~ An abuse survivor, who will not allow that in my life any longer!