This was sent anonymously to Angela Hoy. Please post your responses to this person right here and help her if you can:
I need to know where to obtain help--resources for someone in
my position. I do not work, have young children, little money in my
pockets and low self-esteem. I used to be such a go-getter and a vibrant, healthy mover and shaker. Now I question myself at every turn. How do I accomplish anything, much less take the necessary steps to leave the "love of my life" (right! lol) while being strong enough to take care of 4 children from the ages of 2-14, get us all through this stressful time of transition (both good and bad, mind you), and make it all work out???
I guess I need a simple step-by-step guide or checklist to make it as easy as possible on all of us, but mostly on me, the shell-shocked leader. I don't want to make it more difficult or drawn-out by wasting my time trying to figure out what to do, then question it a million times, change things over and over and then end up worse off than when I began...
I'm not having difficulty finding information, but I think that there is a lack of support for women who are in bad relationships that are in the grey area of almost domestically violent, but not quite enough to be considered dangerous. I'd like the "system" to take me more seriously, and not to treat me like the helpless, abused victim that doesn't know what's best for her.
I am having trouble finding counseling for myself and my children because we currently don't have insurance. I don't want to be treated like a big loser or one of "those poor ignorant women" just because I don't work outside of the home and don't have insurance. I don't want to be treated like some poor welfare momma, so I don't go on public assistance, but that may all change. I'd like for there to be a program for women who stay home with their kids that is not welfare, but allows us to co-op for insurance or dr's visits or something. I'd love to be able to barter for my services--like tutoring their kids or helping in their offices or doing paperwork at home or something. I'm willing to work for the things I need, but I don't want to go out and get a full time job while my kiddoes are still so little.