Once away from the abuse and the abuser, you need to critically examine your own behavior to see whether or not you truly were provoking him.
Provoking him???? Please. Abuse is never, ever acceptable in any situation. Nearly all abusers blame the victim for their behavior. They also often call the victim's siblings, parents, etc and try to convince them that the victim is at fault.
BUT the bottom line is this: There is NO EXCUSE for being abusive to another human being. NONE.
Shesawriter2, you are a victim. Don't feel guilty for his behavior; you can't control him. Just get out. He'll keep trying to manipulate you afterward, too; he'll either blame you or say he can't live without you or threaten suicide. Just stick to your guns. HUGS!